I am not american but my boss is american and every time I send him an email I hesitate about that word.
Thank youCould you please do me a favor and let me know when to use 'advise' or 'advice' in a sentence?
Hi.
Here is the deal:
advise is a verb and advice is a noun, now you can use it freely and surely that you won't make any more mistakes.
Take care.Could you please do me a favor and let me know when to use 'advise' or 'advice' in a sentence?
You advise someone on how to do something. You offer advice.
The advice given by Ismaboa above is sound. The advice I'm advising you now is one way to use both words in one sentence.
I advise you to take my advice.
Advice is a noun, a ';thing'; (though not a physical thing).
To advise someone is a verb, it's doing something.
So, when you're talking about the ';stuff';, use the noun, advice; when you're talking about someone giving advice, use the verb, advise.
Advise is ';to advise someone'; like I am advising you about how to use the words.
It's pronounced like ';Ad-Vize';
Advice is the actual content of say; this answer. It is the instruction that you are giving when you ';advise someone.';
Pronounced as it is written. With the 'vice' like 'ice.'
Monday, December 21, 2009
Why are men advised to be a challenge or play women in men's dating advice books?
I have read about various tactics that men use on women to try to hook up with a hot woman. They are advised to be a challenge, use disconnectors (like cutting them off on purpose, saying they have to go, saying they don't want to do something, saying they are bored or forgot to call, for exs.) to get a woman's attention, This is necessary because beautiful women are spoiled brats with low frustration tolerance (an actual Psychology term). In other words, they are used to getting what they want, and when they don't they are irritated and will start working harder to get what they want- supposedly the man who is being a challenge. So what do feminists or men who have tried to do this or would not do this think? Does this work, is all this game playing necessary or is it the typical man-woman power struggle?Why are men advised to be a challenge or play women in men's dating advice books?
Actually, it's usually genuine boredom and a decision to get on to better more important things.
Women have a habit of reading more into things than is really there.
If this makes a woman ';work harder'; that's a good thing , maybe she'll be less of a bore next time.
*** In the past , in an attempt to be polite or chivalrous a guy might sit through a lousy date, but these days ,why should he ?Why are men advised to be a challenge or play women in men's dating advice books?
';Men's dating advice books'; are only for that - teaching them some ';time-tested tricks'; that will guarantee ';numerous notches on ones bed post';. If they didnt entice men with such ';promising material';, they may not sell.
I never had the need to read such books for real advice. For someone whos a natural, books arent needed. Yes some of this game playing does give results, but the depth or longevity of such relationships that needed games to be played are debatable.
It works on a certain type of women. I don't know exactly what that type is, but I know it's not me. I have a guy friend who treats women like that and he's never without female company. I don't respond to men who act like that, but maybe it's because I know what to expect from them because of how I've seen my friend act.
I think that if a guy just wants sex then he has a good chance of getting it by playing these games, but meaningful relationships won't workout like that.
those books are written by fools for fools. Attracting another person is about being yourself, not playing a whole bunch of complex mind games-mostly because everyone has a different personality. Maybe one of the tricks worked on one woman, but ten others may be disgusted with the guy.
I hate those dating books, and its very obvious when a man or woman has read one and tries to hit on you.
Those books are written by idiots for idiots.
I personally love playing complex mind games but only for casual relationships.
If you *really* want that girl/guy, don't play so much games.
Its childish to play games and I don't follow other peoples rules. I think it is cruel to mislead someone in the hopes to invade/take advantage of them.
I guess it's just like women who use ';The Rules'; as a way to attract the attention of men. Many in both sexes use games. I'd rather be honest and be with like minded people.
No, its because dating books will do anything to get money from those who lack social skills. Women's magazines and books have been doing the same thing to men for ages.
Well that explains why a lot of ';hot'; women I know connect with losers. It seems that many of the best looking women I know are attracted to men to treat them poorly. Why?
No, it works. But it only works on weak-minded women. It works on the women as stated that are used to having their way with men, and will do what ever it takes to ensure they continue to have their way. The one鈥檚 who normally use what they鈥檝e got to get what they want. I've seen many of my guy friends use these tactics on some ';hot girls'; successfully. And the idiots just keep coming back for more.
But most of the men who use these tactics are men who're lonely, and really want some one in their lives, but are afraid of being hurt. They where once hurt by a ';hot girl'; so this is their way of getting all ';hot girls'; back for what that one girl did to them. And the cycle just keep's repeating itself until someone get's tired of playing games and really wants to settle down.
All in all, when it comes time for someone to really find a mate, they'll get sick of the head games, and the ';play books'; and they'll get serious. Most of these men and women who claim they enjoy the chase get burnt out with it like everyone else. It's not to cool when you go to wash your face in the morning and see a 40 yr old single, with no kids, living at home alone still eating T.V. dinners reflection starting back at you. Everybody wants' someone in their lives, and we all want to be wanted by someone. It's human nature. It's just that many people live an empty life for years before they come to the realization that all those games they played with many hearts (both men and women) only got them nothing but an empty house and a trail of tears (some theirs, and some of the people they鈥檝e hurt).
All of my relationships have pretty much started out this way. They played these head games with me. In all cases the men became more demanding and controlling. I became more of a people pleaser trying to get him to love me. He would withhold his love to manipulate and control me. needless to say the relationships ended with emotional %26amp; physical abuse. I feel that if a relationship starts out as a power struggle with a fondation of manipulation and control it is doomed to faliure. I see the only way to have a good relationship is through honesty %26amp; trust. Mabey these books are talking about just getting laid and not advice for a real relationship.
Ill answer the last first. Yes it is necessary, men and women do a dance to attract a mate this just happens to be one of them.
Does it work? Yes, generally speaking women (men to a lesser degree) are very self conscious and tie far too much of their self worth to their ability to attract and hold a mate. The basic premise is to make the woman feel undesired so she will work hard to be desirable to the man attacking her self worth. If she is successful she will fell better about herself and he will get what he wants.
Its really true the a$$holes get the hot girls, they just cant keep them. When you are looking for a keeper girl and not just a booty call you will change tactics and be the nice guy because your looking for a smarter more valuable mate who doesnt suffer the self esteem issues that the easy girls do.
For the same reason that women's dating books also give advice about trying to hook up with a man by disrespecting him, ignoring phone calls, and somehow using their psychology against them.
None of these dating books offer advice for building meaningful relationships and connecting with people, but trying to gain their interest in ways that show complete lack of respect for the other person. They certainly encourage both men and women to engage in power-struggles which are completely detrimental to building a healthy relationship with them. If both are playing hard-to-get, who does the chasing anyway?
I would ignore all of them. It's more useful to try and be open and honest with the person about your intentions, respect their boundaries and refrain from witholding affection on the basis of maintaining an elusive upper-hand in the situation.
These books don't teach you anything unless you're trying to get into someone's pants, and even then, I'm not sure why I would jump into someone's pants if they ignored me and made excuses about it constantly.
Maintaining a healthy challenge by not being too available to the person because you're leading your own life is one thing, but deliberately pushing them away to get their attention is not only disrespectful to the other person, but it's a punishment for yourself too.
If women, even the spoiled ones are up on game, these tactics do not work. I went to see this FINE attractive guy at his place of work. He focused 95% of his attention on my lil cousin who was visting from out the country (she's 8). For a min I thought hey.. as he embrassed me long n close at the end.... HOWEVER I remembered hearing about the tactic of in a sense dissing the girl by not giving her attention, thus my feelings were not hurt and I was able to not get drawn in. Haha. Guys are so lame to stoop so low to using tactics. LOSER! lol. As fine as he was......
tHUMBS DOWN? Okay, wutever....be thinkin guys dont use skills/tactics to get a girl.cream tones
Actually, it's usually genuine boredom and a decision to get on to better more important things.
Women have a habit of reading more into things than is really there.
If this makes a woman ';work harder'; that's a good thing , maybe she'll be less of a bore next time.
*** In the past , in an attempt to be polite or chivalrous a guy might sit through a lousy date, but these days ,why should he ?Why are men advised to be a challenge or play women in men's dating advice books?
';Men's dating advice books'; are only for that - teaching them some ';time-tested tricks'; that will guarantee ';numerous notches on ones bed post';. If they didnt entice men with such ';promising material';, they may not sell.
I never had the need to read such books for real advice. For someone whos a natural, books arent needed. Yes some of this game playing does give results, but the depth or longevity of such relationships that needed games to be played are debatable.
It works on a certain type of women. I don't know exactly what that type is, but I know it's not me. I have a guy friend who treats women like that and he's never without female company. I don't respond to men who act like that, but maybe it's because I know what to expect from them because of how I've seen my friend act.
I think that if a guy just wants sex then he has a good chance of getting it by playing these games, but meaningful relationships won't workout like that.
those books are written by fools for fools. Attracting another person is about being yourself, not playing a whole bunch of complex mind games-mostly because everyone has a different personality. Maybe one of the tricks worked on one woman, but ten others may be disgusted with the guy.
I hate those dating books, and its very obvious when a man or woman has read one and tries to hit on you.
Those books are written by idiots for idiots.
I personally love playing complex mind games but only for casual relationships.
If you *really* want that girl/guy, don't play so much games.
Its childish to play games and I don't follow other peoples rules. I think it is cruel to mislead someone in the hopes to invade/take advantage of them.
I guess it's just like women who use ';The Rules'; as a way to attract the attention of men. Many in both sexes use games. I'd rather be honest and be with like minded people.
No, its because dating books will do anything to get money from those who lack social skills. Women's magazines and books have been doing the same thing to men for ages.
Well that explains why a lot of ';hot'; women I know connect with losers. It seems that many of the best looking women I know are attracted to men to treat them poorly. Why?
No, it works. But it only works on weak-minded women. It works on the women as stated that are used to having their way with men, and will do what ever it takes to ensure they continue to have their way. The one鈥檚 who normally use what they鈥檝e got to get what they want. I've seen many of my guy friends use these tactics on some ';hot girls'; successfully. And the idiots just keep coming back for more.
But most of the men who use these tactics are men who're lonely, and really want some one in their lives, but are afraid of being hurt. They where once hurt by a ';hot girl'; so this is their way of getting all ';hot girls'; back for what that one girl did to them. And the cycle just keep's repeating itself until someone get's tired of playing games and really wants to settle down.
All in all, when it comes time for someone to really find a mate, they'll get sick of the head games, and the ';play books'; and they'll get serious. Most of these men and women who claim they enjoy the chase get burnt out with it like everyone else. It's not to cool when you go to wash your face in the morning and see a 40 yr old single, with no kids, living at home alone still eating T.V. dinners reflection starting back at you. Everybody wants' someone in their lives, and we all want to be wanted by someone. It's human nature. It's just that many people live an empty life for years before they come to the realization that all those games they played with many hearts (both men and women) only got them nothing but an empty house and a trail of tears (some theirs, and some of the people they鈥檝e hurt).
All of my relationships have pretty much started out this way. They played these head games with me. In all cases the men became more demanding and controlling. I became more of a people pleaser trying to get him to love me. He would withhold his love to manipulate and control me. needless to say the relationships ended with emotional %26amp; physical abuse. I feel that if a relationship starts out as a power struggle with a fondation of manipulation and control it is doomed to faliure. I see the only way to have a good relationship is through honesty %26amp; trust. Mabey these books are talking about just getting laid and not advice for a real relationship.
Ill answer the last first. Yes it is necessary, men and women do a dance to attract a mate this just happens to be one of them.
Does it work? Yes, generally speaking women (men to a lesser degree) are very self conscious and tie far too much of their self worth to their ability to attract and hold a mate. The basic premise is to make the woman feel undesired so she will work hard to be desirable to the man attacking her self worth. If she is successful she will fell better about herself and he will get what he wants.
Its really true the a$$holes get the hot girls, they just cant keep them. When you are looking for a keeper girl and not just a booty call you will change tactics and be the nice guy because your looking for a smarter more valuable mate who doesnt suffer the self esteem issues that the easy girls do.
For the same reason that women's dating books also give advice about trying to hook up with a man by disrespecting him, ignoring phone calls, and somehow using their psychology against them.
None of these dating books offer advice for building meaningful relationships and connecting with people, but trying to gain their interest in ways that show complete lack of respect for the other person. They certainly encourage both men and women to engage in power-struggles which are completely detrimental to building a healthy relationship with them. If both are playing hard-to-get, who does the chasing anyway?
I would ignore all of them. It's more useful to try and be open and honest with the person about your intentions, respect their boundaries and refrain from witholding affection on the basis of maintaining an elusive upper-hand in the situation.
These books don't teach you anything unless you're trying to get into someone's pants, and even then, I'm not sure why I would jump into someone's pants if they ignored me and made excuses about it constantly.
Maintaining a healthy challenge by not being too available to the person because you're leading your own life is one thing, but deliberately pushing them away to get their attention is not only disrespectful to the other person, but it's a punishment for yourself too.
If women, even the spoiled ones are up on game, these tactics do not work. I went to see this FINE attractive guy at his place of work. He focused 95% of his attention on my lil cousin who was visting from out the country (she's 8). For a min I thought hey.. as he embrassed me long n close at the end.... HOWEVER I remembered hearing about the tactic of in a sense dissing the girl by not giving her attention, thus my feelings were not hurt and I was able to not get drawn in. Haha. Guys are so lame to stoop so low to using tactics. LOSER! lol. As fine as he was......
tHUMBS DOWN? Okay, wutever....be thinkin guys dont use skills/tactics to get a girl.
I done as sewrobb advised but my laptop is still showing ram is low have you or him any more advice?
i have a toshiba satelite pro L20 with windows xp 2003I done as sewrobb advised but my laptop is still showing ram is low have you or him any more advice?
Well going back and reading what he said you should look at upgrading to 1G of ram. That should take care of your problemI done as sewrobb advised but my laptop is still showing ram is low have you or him any more advice?
I saw your original question about low RAM and although you did get good advice I am always very wary of people who don't know much about computers going into advanced settings and having a fiddle. In fact I even get alarmed at the number of people on this forum who seem to think formatting, partitioning and reinstalling is something that should be done without thinking instead of finding other solutions,
In your case, I am assuming you are running a lot of programs, possibly multi media, games etc and I am sure your problem would be easily solved if you just take your laptop into PC World so they can see what RAM you have and so you buy the right type to top it up. I would suggest you need a minimum of 2gb these days. They will also fit it in for you if you do not know how.
Well going back and reading what he said you should look at upgrading to 1G of ram. That should take care of your problemI done as sewrobb advised but my laptop is still showing ram is low have you or him any more advice?
I saw your original question about low RAM and although you did get good advice I am always very wary of people who don't know much about computers going into advanced settings and having a fiddle. In fact I even get alarmed at the number of people on this forum who seem to think formatting, partitioning and reinstalling is something that should be done without thinking instead of finding other solutions,
In your case, I am assuming you are running a lot of programs, possibly multi media, games etc and I am sure your problem would be easily solved if you just take your laptop into PC World so they can see what RAM you have and so you buy the right type to top it up. I would suggest you need a minimum of 2gb these days. They will also fit it in for you if you do not know how.
Need advice or opinions on children going to chiropractor. Am being advised by chiropractor against immunizing
children aged 4 and 2. I am being told that this will help fight diseases and was given brochures against immunizing them. Won't this affect bone growth? Is this no immunization stuff for real? I would like to hear pro and con info.Need advice or opinions on children going to chiropractor. Am being advised by chiropractor against immunizing
If you research the specific diseases - even using the cdc.gov websites, you will see that many of the vaccines we recieve are simply not necessary. Beyond the sexually transmitted diseases, some are very mild (measles, mumps, chicken pox) and some have been eradicated (polio).
Additionally, there are many harmful agents in vaccines - formaldyhyde, aluminum, cells from aborted fetuses.
No one can tell you whether or not to vaccinate, that is your call. But you must do your research! Don't just blindly stick a needle in your little ones without knowing what you are vaccinating for, the contraindications (some vaccines are contraindicated for those w/ eczema, asthma, egg or latex allergies, for example), and the potential side effects... there are lots of side effects, from fevers, crying, seizures, even death.
In the US, 48 states allow for exemption of vaccinations for school/daycare entry. You can secure an exemption based on either religious or philosophical reasons, typically very easily.Need advice or opinions on children going to chiropractor. Am being advised by chiropractor against immunizing
I have three children- all of whom have been immunized. I not only think that they should be immunized, but i suggest it highly, especially if they plan on going to public schools. With the ever changing face of this country- peopel coming from areas where immunizations dont happen, there are lots of diseases that are making nasty comebacks in todays societies. heck even the flu is killing people!
I took my youngest to the chiropractor from the time he was born until he turned two because his spine was curved. His doctor suggested against them but said it was in the end up to parents.
Hoping and wishing wont keep your kids healthy.
I think that there are great benefits to children going to the chiropractor. It doesnt stunt their growth from what i have seen. When the baby was little, it helped taking him to the chiroprator becuase they showed me techniques to help soothe him when he was irritable and it really helped.
I would have to say though as a parent I would be skeptical if someone were to tell me what i SHOULD do. I would say talk it over with your pediatrician.
There are pros and cons to having them done, but the rewards greatly outweigh the risks.
In the end you have to decide what would be best for your children. The immunizations only lessen the effects of some diseases or illnesses.
First of all, the science behind chiropractic is very thin. Yes, chiropractors do help many people, but their adversity to immunizations is harmful. The rationale for immunizations is founded on rigorous scientific study in fields as diverse as immunology and epidemiology. Remember, most people who come down with most diseases recover, even if given no treatment. However, many victims of disease die or have permanent disabilities. Polio resulted in 20,000 cases of paralysis or death every year in the USA prior to the polio vaccine. Your grandmother might tell you ';we all had measles when I was a child!'; She forgot how sick the children were. It's a terrible disease. You can make a good case for all the other immunizations like diphtheria, tetanus, whooping cough, chicken pox, Hib, rubella, mumps, and so on.
Yes, many persons avoided or survived the above diseases, but there are also many relatives mourning those lost to preventable diseases, too.
No vaccine is entirely perfect. The brochures you were given discuss the possible side effects. If you are concerned, ask your doctor for more information.
The pros are this, if you get your child immunized against certain diseases you child has a greater likelyhood of not aquiring them. For instance if you give your child the MMR they will most likely not aquire measles and since measles and mumps are life threatening your child will most likely not die from them. Chiropractors are good as long as they stay within their own scope of practice which is manipulating the musculoskeletal system. Measles does not originate from the bones therefore no matter how much you adjust your bones you will not prevent or cure measles. On the down side there are studies that have linked a higher instance of other diseases with immunization. Such as autism and even aquiring the infection that you were trying to prevent from the immunization. Aquiring the disease you are trying to prevent from the immunization itself is very rare. Also by not immunizing your child you are relying on other people to be immunized themselves so as not to spread the disease to your child. There is also some evidence to link the HIV epidemic in Africa with tainted polio immunizations. It comes down to this question...Are you willing to take the risks vs benefit ratio. And if you are not are you willing to depend on others to vaccinate their children so yours won't get sick?
Studies have been done for many years and their is no proof that immunization harms them in any way. But it could help them. You children need their immunization against Tetnus(can cause lockjaw) mumps (can cause sterility in boys that get it) There are so many really nasty germs out there. Please give them their shots
How do you plan on getting your children into school? They require them.
I am starting to have concerns about may immunizations.
I would get a second opinion. I have seen chiropractic work help with children that had posture and walking problems but not for things you are describing.
Don't immunize them. I have an aunt who hasn't been immunized and she's been fine her whole life and she's 93 yrs. old. Don't take them to a chiro. that young though. Their bones aren't done growing and it might cause damage.
If you research the specific diseases - even using the cdc.gov websites, you will see that many of the vaccines we recieve are simply not necessary. Beyond the sexually transmitted diseases, some are very mild (measles, mumps, chicken pox) and some have been eradicated (polio).
Additionally, there are many harmful agents in vaccines - formaldyhyde, aluminum, cells from aborted fetuses.
No one can tell you whether or not to vaccinate, that is your call. But you must do your research! Don't just blindly stick a needle in your little ones without knowing what you are vaccinating for, the contraindications (some vaccines are contraindicated for those w/ eczema, asthma, egg or latex allergies, for example), and the potential side effects... there are lots of side effects, from fevers, crying, seizures, even death.
In the US, 48 states allow for exemption of vaccinations for school/daycare entry. You can secure an exemption based on either religious or philosophical reasons, typically very easily.Need advice or opinions on children going to chiropractor. Am being advised by chiropractor against immunizing
I have three children- all of whom have been immunized. I not only think that they should be immunized, but i suggest it highly, especially if they plan on going to public schools. With the ever changing face of this country- peopel coming from areas where immunizations dont happen, there are lots of diseases that are making nasty comebacks in todays societies. heck even the flu is killing people!
I took my youngest to the chiropractor from the time he was born until he turned two because his spine was curved. His doctor suggested against them but said it was in the end up to parents.
Hoping and wishing wont keep your kids healthy.
I think that there are great benefits to children going to the chiropractor. It doesnt stunt their growth from what i have seen. When the baby was little, it helped taking him to the chiroprator becuase they showed me techniques to help soothe him when he was irritable and it really helped.
I would have to say though as a parent I would be skeptical if someone were to tell me what i SHOULD do. I would say talk it over with your pediatrician.
There are pros and cons to having them done, but the rewards greatly outweigh the risks.
In the end you have to decide what would be best for your children. The immunizations only lessen the effects of some diseases or illnesses.
First of all, the science behind chiropractic is very thin. Yes, chiropractors do help many people, but their adversity to immunizations is harmful. The rationale for immunizations is founded on rigorous scientific study in fields as diverse as immunology and epidemiology. Remember, most people who come down with most diseases recover, even if given no treatment. However, many victims of disease die or have permanent disabilities. Polio resulted in 20,000 cases of paralysis or death every year in the USA prior to the polio vaccine. Your grandmother might tell you ';we all had measles when I was a child!'; She forgot how sick the children were. It's a terrible disease. You can make a good case for all the other immunizations like diphtheria, tetanus, whooping cough, chicken pox, Hib, rubella, mumps, and so on.
Yes, many persons avoided or survived the above diseases, but there are also many relatives mourning those lost to preventable diseases, too.
No vaccine is entirely perfect. The brochures you were given discuss the possible side effects. If you are concerned, ask your doctor for more information.
The pros are this, if you get your child immunized against certain diseases you child has a greater likelyhood of not aquiring them. For instance if you give your child the MMR they will most likely not aquire measles and since measles and mumps are life threatening your child will most likely not die from them. Chiropractors are good as long as they stay within their own scope of practice which is manipulating the musculoskeletal system. Measles does not originate from the bones therefore no matter how much you adjust your bones you will not prevent or cure measles. On the down side there are studies that have linked a higher instance of other diseases with immunization. Such as autism and even aquiring the infection that you were trying to prevent from the immunization. Aquiring the disease you are trying to prevent from the immunization itself is very rare. Also by not immunizing your child you are relying on other people to be immunized themselves so as not to spread the disease to your child. There is also some evidence to link the HIV epidemic in Africa with tainted polio immunizations. It comes down to this question...Are you willing to take the risks vs benefit ratio. And if you are not are you willing to depend on others to vaccinate their children so yours won't get sick?
Studies have been done for many years and their is no proof that immunization harms them in any way. But it could help them. You children need their immunization against Tetnus(can cause lockjaw) mumps (can cause sterility in boys that get it) There are so many really nasty germs out there. Please give them their shots
How do you plan on getting your children into school? They require them.
I am starting to have concerns about may immunizations.
I would get a second opinion. I have seen chiropractic work help with children that had posture and walking problems but not for things you are describing.
Don't immunize them. I have an aunt who hasn't been immunized and she's been fine her whole life and she's 93 yrs. old. Don't take them to a chiro. that young though. Their bones aren't done growing and it might cause damage.
I truly need advice about writing a congressional letter...meaning..if it's necessary or not.....pleae advise
My nephew, after graduating from highschool two years ago, joined the armed forces (army) immediately...incredibliy intelligent, with three languages, fluent..behind him..he made a high paygrade and was trained in intelligence..THEN...he did the ultimate stupid thing......he was caught with drugs, marijauna..and driving..with friends..off duty....on leave..and boom..they busted him...gave him general honorable discharge.. I am trying desperately to get him back in the military...He made a big error..has paid a great price..has learned from this....CAn anyone suggest..perhaps....who I contact to try and re-instate him? Yes, i thought of writing a congressional...andt hought of going to the military..headquarters..directly..wheree鈥?that is..but....WHO knows how to cut through red tape and contact the correct governing body....in order to help this young man. PLEASE DO not writ back with your moral judgements..etc...but instead...I need advice on if a congressional is a waste of time..I truly need advice about writing a congressional letter...meaning..if it's necessary or not.....pleae advise
You can start with your congressman and/or senator. If they are on the armed services committee, then they may be able to do something for him.
I can tell that you have a lot of admiration and faith in this former soldier. Unfortunately for you, the army is very strick on drugs and DWIs. They are career killers and every soldier knows this through periodic training and examples of other soldiers getting caught. It is a mistake that I am sure he has learned from, but it is not something the Army usually gives you a second chance on. Drugs and DWI are one strike and you are out.
Again, I know that you have a lot of faith and admiration for your nephew, but a congressman or senator would be putting a lot on the line to stand up for him. Nothing hurts by trying, but I would not be too optimistic.
Good Luck!I truly need advice about writing a congressional letter...meaning..if it's necessary or not.....pleae advise
as an ARMY recruiter i can tell you that he most likely has an RE CODE 4. if thats the case or he has a seperation code that is equally as bad. then you can write letters to whomever you want but it wont change a thing. your nephew knew at the time he was doing the drugs that it was wrong but decided to roll the dice anyway. this is exactly the type of person that i DONT want in my ARMY. and it is mine!
In order to get back in the military he would have to have his discharge upgraded.
This is something that is _very_ rare for this kind of situation because the discharge code was given as a punishment for misconduct.
In general, a Congressional Inquiry will be a waste of time because the Congressman will be informed that the discharge was properly awarded in accordance with US laws and Army regulations.
now was it general,honorable, or general with honorable conditions?....because a general honorable doesnt exist....and quite frankly on leave or not most times they give a dishonorable when drugs are involved, hes lucky to have gotten a discharge that allows him the ability to get a civilian job.....he should cut his losses grow up and move on. you can write letters to your congressman etc but i seriously doubt they will reinstate him sorry to say.
I would love to give you some good news but in truth there isn't any. Except that he hopefully learned something from this event. You could try to get his discharge up graded but the time frame and chances of that happening are very slim.
Let him know he made a mistake, now start a different life without the military!
Well he should of refuted the discharge when he had the chance to do so. It sounds like his discharge could have been alot worse. It's a shame and I understand people make mistakes, but the military is constantly looking for scape goats and I'm sorry to hear it was your nephew. I would say it is a hopeless effort, but what else do you have to loose. Good Luck
Dillion
Do you really mean that he broke regulations, should have known better, but shouldn't have to pay the consequences? With the training you indicate, he should not only get kicked out, but pay back for the training he underwent.
Examples of poor judgment: get drunk, drive a car, hit and kill someone, face judgment and hope a relative thinks you are better than than and writes to say everything is unfair.
My friend bought a BRAND NEW truck while stationed at Fort Hood. He gave a ride to his buddy to pick up a pound of Maryjane. Texas State police bust them, and as state by law, Texas confiscated his brand new, haven't made my first payment truck, which he still has to pay off. Poor judgment.
Sorry, I raving... I guess life is really unfair, isn't it?
You can start with your congressman and/or senator. If they are on the armed services committee, then they may be able to do something for him.
I can tell that you have a lot of admiration and faith in this former soldier. Unfortunately for you, the army is very strick on drugs and DWIs. They are career killers and every soldier knows this through periodic training and examples of other soldiers getting caught. It is a mistake that I am sure he has learned from, but it is not something the Army usually gives you a second chance on. Drugs and DWI are one strike and you are out.
Again, I know that you have a lot of faith and admiration for your nephew, but a congressman or senator would be putting a lot on the line to stand up for him. Nothing hurts by trying, but I would not be too optimistic.
Good Luck!I truly need advice about writing a congressional letter...meaning..if it's necessary or not.....pleae advise
as an ARMY recruiter i can tell you that he most likely has an RE CODE 4. if thats the case or he has a seperation code that is equally as bad. then you can write letters to whomever you want but it wont change a thing. your nephew knew at the time he was doing the drugs that it was wrong but decided to roll the dice anyway. this is exactly the type of person that i DONT want in my ARMY. and it is mine!
In order to get back in the military he would have to have his discharge upgraded.
This is something that is _very_ rare for this kind of situation because the discharge code was given as a punishment for misconduct.
In general, a Congressional Inquiry will be a waste of time because the Congressman will be informed that the discharge was properly awarded in accordance with US laws and Army regulations.
now was it general,honorable, or general with honorable conditions?....because a general honorable doesnt exist....and quite frankly on leave or not most times they give a dishonorable when drugs are involved, hes lucky to have gotten a discharge that allows him the ability to get a civilian job.....he should cut his losses grow up and move on. you can write letters to your congressman etc but i seriously doubt they will reinstate him sorry to say.
I would love to give you some good news but in truth there isn't any. Except that he hopefully learned something from this event. You could try to get his discharge up graded but the time frame and chances of that happening are very slim.
Let him know he made a mistake, now start a different life without the military!
Well he should of refuted the discharge when he had the chance to do so. It sounds like his discharge could have been alot worse. It's a shame and I understand people make mistakes, but the military is constantly looking for scape goats and I'm sorry to hear it was your nephew. I would say it is a hopeless effort, but what else do you have to loose. Good Luck
Dillion
Do you really mean that he broke regulations, should have known better, but shouldn't have to pay the consequences? With the training you indicate, he should not only get kicked out, but pay back for the training he underwent.
Examples of poor judgment: get drunk, drive a car, hit and kill someone, face judgment and hope a relative thinks you are better than than and writes to say everything is unfair.
My friend bought a BRAND NEW truck while stationed at Fort Hood. He gave a ride to his buddy to pick up a pound of Maryjane. Texas State police bust them, and as state by law, Texas confiscated his brand new, haven't made my first payment truck, which he still has to pay off. Poor judgment.
Sorry, I raving... I guess life is really unfair, isn't it?
Need advice or opinions on children going to chiropractor. Am being advised by chiropractor against immunizing
children aged 4 and 2. I am being told that this will help fight diseases and was given brochures against immunizing them. Won't this affect bone growth? Is this no immunization stuff for real? I would like to hear pro and con info.Need advice or opinions on children going to chiropractor. Am being advised by chiropractor against immunizing
If you research the specific diseases - even using the cdc.gov websites, you will see that many of the vaccines we recieve are simply not necessary. Beyond the sexually transmitted diseases, some are very mild (measles, mumps, chicken pox) and some have been eradicated (polio).
Additionally, there are many harmful agents in vaccines - formaldyhyde, aluminum, cells from aborted fetuses.
No one can tell you whether or not to vaccinate, that is your call. But you must do your research! Don't just blindly stick a needle in your little ones without knowing what you are vaccinating for, the contraindications (some vaccines are contraindicated for those w/ eczema, asthma, egg or latex allergies, for example), and the potential side effects... there are lots of side effects, from fevers, crying, seizures, even death.
In the US, 48 states allow for exemption of vaccinations for school/daycare entry. You can secure an exemption based on either religious or philosophical reasons, typically very easily.Need advice or opinions on children going to chiropractor. Am being advised by chiropractor against immunizing
I have three children- all of whom have been immunized. I not only think that they should be immunized, but i suggest it highly, especially if they plan on going to public schools. With the ever changing face of this country- peopel coming from areas where immunizations dont happen, there are lots of diseases that are making nasty comebacks in todays societies. heck even the flu is killing people!
I took my youngest to the chiropractor from the time he was born until he turned two because his spine was curved. His doctor suggested against them but said it was in the end up to parents.
Hoping and wishing wont keep your kids healthy.
I think that there are great benefits to children going to the chiropractor. It doesnt stunt their growth from what i have seen. When the baby was little, it helped taking him to the chiroprator becuase they showed me techniques to help soothe him when he was irritable and it really helped.
I would have to say though as a parent I would be skeptical if someone were to tell me what i SHOULD do. I would say talk it over with your pediatrician.
There are pros and cons to having them done, but the rewards greatly outweigh the risks.
In the end you have to decide what would be best for your children. The immunizations only lessen the effects of some diseases or illnesses.
First of all, the science behind chiropractic is very thin. Yes, chiropractors do help many people, but their adversity to immunizations is harmful. The rationale for immunizations is founded on rigorous scientific study in fields as diverse as immunology and epidemiology. Remember, most people who come down with most diseases recover, even if given no treatment. However, many victims of disease die or have permanent disabilities. Polio resulted in 20,000 cases of paralysis or death every year in the USA prior to the polio vaccine. Your grandmother might tell you ';we all had measles when I was a child!'; She forgot how sick the children were. It's a terrible disease. You can make a good case for all the other immunizations like diphtheria, tetanus, whooping cough, chicken pox, Hib, rubella, mumps, and so on.
Yes, many persons avoided or survived the above diseases, but there are also many relatives mourning those lost to preventable diseases, too.
No vaccine is entirely perfect. The brochures you were given discuss the possible side effects. If you are concerned, ask your doctor for more information.
The pros are this, if you get your child immunized against certain diseases you child has a greater likelyhood of not aquiring them. For instance if you give your child the MMR they will most likely not aquire measles and since measles and mumps are life threatening your child will most likely not die from them. Chiropractors are good as long as they stay within their own scope of practice which is manipulating the musculoskeletal system. Measles does not originate from the bones therefore no matter how much you adjust your bones you will not prevent or cure measles. On the down side there are studies that have linked a higher instance of other diseases with immunization. Such as autism and even aquiring the infection that you were trying to prevent from the immunization. Aquiring the disease you are trying to prevent from the immunization itself is very rare. Also by not immunizing your child you are relying on other people to be immunized themselves so as not to spread the disease to your child. There is also some evidence to link the HIV epidemic in Africa with tainted polio immunizations. It comes down to this question...Are you willing to take the risks vs benefit ratio. And if you are not are you willing to depend on others to vaccinate their children so yours won't get sick?
Studies have been done for many years and their is no proof that immunization harms them in any way. But it could help them. You children need their immunization against Tetnus(can cause lockjaw) mumps (can cause sterility in boys that get it) There are so many really nasty germs out there. Please give them their shots
How do you plan on getting your children into school? They require them.
I am starting to have concerns about may immunizations.
I would get a second opinion. I have seen chiropractic work help with children that had posture and walking problems but not for things you are describing.
Don't immunize them. I have an aunt who hasn't been immunized and she's been fine her whole life and she's 93 yrs. old. Don't take them to a chiro. that young though. Their bones aren't done growing and it might cause damage.
If you research the specific diseases - even using the cdc.gov websites, you will see that many of the vaccines we recieve are simply not necessary. Beyond the sexually transmitted diseases, some are very mild (measles, mumps, chicken pox) and some have been eradicated (polio).
Additionally, there are many harmful agents in vaccines - formaldyhyde, aluminum, cells from aborted fetuses.
No one can tell you whether or not to vaccinate, that is your call. But you must do your research! Don't just blindly stick a needle in your little ones without knowing what you are vaccinating for, the contraindications (some vaccines are contraindicated for those w/ eczema, asthma, egg or latex allergies, for example), and the potential side effects... there are lots of side effects, from fevers, crying, seizures, even death.
In the US, 48 states allow for exemption of vaccinations for school/daycare entry. You can secure an exemption based on either religious or philosophical reasons, typically very easily.Need advice or opinions on children going to chiropractor. Am being advised by chiropractor against immunizing
I have three children- all of whom have been immunized. I not only think that they should be immunized, but i suggest it highly, especially if they plan on going to public schools. With the ever changing face of this country- peopel coming from areas where immunizations dont happen, there are lots of diseases that are making nasty comebacks in todays societies. heck even the flu is killing people!
I took my youngest to the chiropractor from the time he was born until he turned two because his spine was curved. His doctor suggested against them but said it was in the end up to parents.
Hoping and wishing wont keep your kids healthy.
I think that there are great benefits to children going to the chiropractor. It doesnt stunt their growth from what i have seen. When the baby was little, it helped taking him to the chiroprator becuase they showed me techniques to help soothe him when he was irritable and it really helped.
I would have to say though as a parent I would be skeptical if someone were to tell me what i SHOULD do. I would say talk it over with your pediatrician.
There are pros and cons to having them done, but the rewards greatly outweigh the risks.
In the end you have to decide what would be best for your children. The immunizations only lessen the effects of some diseases or illnesses.
First of all, the science behind chiropractic is very thin. Yes, chiropractors do help many people, but their adversity to immunizations is harmful. The rationale for immunizations is founded on rigorous scientific study in fields as diverse as immunology and epidemiology. Remember, most people who come down with most diseases recover, even if given no treatment. However, many victims of disease die or have permanent disabilities. Polio resulted in 20,000 cases of paralysis or death every year in the USA prior to the polio vaccine. Your grandmother might tell you ';we all had measles when I was a child!'; She forgot how sick the children were. It's a terrible disease. You can make a good case for all the other immunizations like diphtheria, tetanus, whooping cough, chicken pox, Hib, rubella, mumps, and so on.
Yes, many persons avoided or survived the above diseases, but there are also many relatives mourning those lost to preventable diseases, too.
No vaccine is entirely perfect. The brochures you were given discuss the possible side effects. If you are concerned, ask your doctor for more information.
The pros are this, if you get your child immunized against certain diseases you child has a greater likelyhood of not aquiring them. For instance if you give your child the MMR they will most likely not aquire measles and since measles and mumps are life threatening your child will most likely not die from them. Chiropractors are good as long as they stay within their own scope of practice which is manipulating the musculoskeletal system. Measles does not originate from the bones therefore no matter how much you adjust your bones you will not prevent or cure measles. On the down side there are studies that have linked a higher instance of other diseases with immunization. Such as autism and even aquiring the infection that you were trying to prevent from the immunization. Aquiring the disease you are trying to prevent from the immunization itself is very rare. Also by not immunizing your child you are relying on other people to be immunized themselves so as not to spread the disease to your child. There is also some evidence to link the HIV epidemic in Africa with tainted polio immunizations. It comes down to this question...Are you willing to take the risks vs benefit ratio. And if you are not are you willing to depend on others to vaccinate their children so yours won't get sick?
Studies have been done for many years and their is no proof that immunization harms them in any way. But it could help them. You children need their immunization against Tetnus(can cause lockjaw) mumps (can cause sterility in boys that get it) There are so many really nasty germs out there. Please give them their shots
How do you plan on getting your children into school? They require them.
I am starting to have concerns about may immunizations.
I would get a second opinion. I have seen chiropractic work help with children that had posture and walking problems but not for things you are describing.
Don't immunize them. I have an aunt who hasn't been immunized and she's been fine her whole life and she's 93 yrs. old. Don't take them to a chiro. that young though. Their bones aren't done growing and it might cause damage.
I truly need advice about writing a congressional letter...meaning..if it's necessary or not.....pleae advise
My nephew, after graduating from highschool two years ago, joined the armed forces (army) immediately...incredibliy intelligent, with three languages, fluent..behind him..he made a high paygrade and was trained in intelligence..THEN...he did the ultimate stupid thing......he was caught with drugs, marijauna..and driving..with friends..off duty....on leave..and boom..they busted him...gave him general honorable discharge.. I am trying desperately to get him back in the military...He made a big error..has paid a great price..has learned from this....CAn anyone suggest..perhaps....who I contact to try and re-instate him? Yes, i thought of writing a congressional...andt hought of going to the military..headquarters..directly..wheree鈥?that is..but....WHO knows how to cut through red tape and contact the correct governing body....in order to help this young man. PLEASE DO not writ back with your moral judgements..etc...but instead...I need advice on if a congressional is a waste of time..I truly need advice about writing a congressional letter...meaning..if it's necessary or not.....pleae advise
You can start with your congressman and/or senator. If they are on the armed services committee, then they may be able to do something for him.
I can tell that you have a lot of admiration and faith in this former soldier. Unfortunately for you, the army is very strick on drugs and DWIs. They are career killers and every soldier knows this through periodic training and examples of other soldiers getting caught. It is a mistake that I am sure he has learned from, but it is not something the Army usually gives you a second chance on. Drugs and DWI are one strike and you are out.
Again, I know that you have a lot of faith and admiration for your nephew, but a congressman or senator would be putting a lot on the line to stand up for him. Nothing hurts by trying, but I would not be too optimistic.
Good Luck!I truly need advice about writing a congressional letter...meaning..if it's necessary or not.....pleae advise
as an ARMY recruiter i can tell you that he most likely has an RE CODE 4. if thats the case or he has a seperation code that is equally as bad. then you can write letters to whomever you want but it wont change a thing. your nephew knew at the time he was doing the drugs that it was wrong but decided to roll the dice anyway. this is exactly the type of person that i DONT want in my ARMY. and it is mine!
In order to get back in the military he would have to have his discharge upgraded.
This is something that is _very_ rare for this kind of situation because the discharge code was given as a punishment for misconduct.
In general, a Congressional Inquiry will be a waste of time because the Congressman will be informed that the discharge was properly awarded in accordance with US laws and Army regulations.
now was it general,honorable, or general with honorable conditions?....because a general honorable doesnt exist....and quite frankly on leave or not most times they give a dishonorable when drugs are involved, hes lucky to have gotten a discharge that allows him the ability to get a civilian job.....he should cut his losses grow up and move on. you can write letters to your congressman etc but i seriously doubt they will reinstate him sorry to say.
I would love to give you some good news but in truth there isn't any. Except that he hopefully learned something from this event. You could try to get his discharge up graded but the time frame and chances of that happening are very slim.
Let him know he made a mistake, now start a different life without the military!
Well he should of refuted the discharge when he had the chance to do so. It sounds like his discharge could have been alot worse. It's a shame and I understand people make mistakes, but the military is constantly looking for scape goats and I'm sorry to hear it was your nephew. I would say it is a hopeless effort, but what else do you have to loose. Good Luck
Dillion
Do you really mean that he broke regulations, should have known better, but shouldn't have to pay the consequences? With the training you indicate, he should not only get kicked out, but pay back for the training he underwent.
Examples of poor judgment: get drunk, drive a car, hit and kill someone, face judgment and hope a relative thinks you are better than than and writes to say everything is unfair.
My friend bought a BRAND NEW truck while stationed at Fort Hood. He gave a ride to his buddy to pick up a pound of Maryjane. Texas State police bust them, and as state by law, Texas confiscated his brand new, haven't made my first payment truck, which he still has to pay off. Poor judgment.
Sorry, I raving... I guess life is really unfair, isn't it?
You can start with your congressman and/or senator. If they are on the armed services committee, then they may be able to do something for him.
I can tell that you have a lot of admiration and faith in this former soldier. Unfortunately for you, the army is very strick on drugs and DWIs. They are career killers and every soldier knows this through periodic training and examples of other soldiers getting caught. It is a mistake that I am sure he has learned from, but it is not something the Army usually gives you a second chance on. Drugs and DWI are one strike and you are out.
Again, I know that you have a lot of faith and admiration for your nephew, but a congressman or senator would be putting a lot on the line to stand up for him. Nothing hurts by trying, but I would not be too optimistic.
Good Luck!I truly need advice about writing a congressional letter...meaning..if it's necessary or not.....pleae advise
as an ARMY recruiter i can tell you that he most likely has an RE CODE 4. if thats the case or he has a seperation code that is equally as bad. then you can write letters to whomever you want but it wont change a thing. your nephew knew at the time he was doing the drugs that it was wrong but decided to roll the dice anyway. this is exactly the type of person that i DONT want in my ARMY. and it is mine!
In order to get back in the military he would have to have his discharge upgraded.
This is something that is _very_ rare for this kind of situation because the discharge code was given as a punishment for misconduct.
In general, a Congressional Inquiry will be a waste of time because the Congressman will be informed that the discharge was properly awarded in accordance with US laws and Army regulations.
now was it general,honorable, or general with honorable conditions?....because a general honorable doesnt exist....and quite frankly on leave or not most times they give a dishonorable when drugs are involved, hes lucky to have gotten a discharge that allows him the ability to get a civilian job.....he should cut his losses grow up and move on. you can write letters to your congressman etc but i seriously doubt they will reinstate him sorry to say.
I would love to give you some good news but in truth there isn't any. Except that he hopefully learned something from this event. You could try to get his discharge up graded but the time frame and chances of that happening are very slim.
Let him know he made a mistake, now start a different life without the military!
Well he should of refuted the discharge when he had the chance to do so. It sounds like his discharge could have been alot worse. It's a shame and I understand people make mistakes, but the military is constantly looking for scape goats and I'm sorry to hear it was your nephew. I would say it is a hopeless effort, but what else do you have to loose. Good Luck
Dillion
Do you really mean that he broke regulations, should have known better, but shouldn't have to pay the consequences? With the training you indicate, he should not only get kicked out, but pay back for the training he underwent.
Examples of poor judgment: get drunk, drive a car, hit and kill someone, face judgment and hope a relative thinks you are better than than and writes to say everything is unfair.
My friend bought a BRAND NEW truck while stationed at Fort Hood. He gave a ride to his buddy to pick up a pound of Maryjane. Texas State police bust them, and as state by law, Texas confiscated his brand new, haven't made my first payment truck, which he still has to pay off. Poor judgment.
Sorry, I raving... I guess life is really unfair, isn't it?
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